It’s not only what you say, It’s also how you say it!
It’s not always about what we say, but it’s more about how you say it.
Communication is so important, whether dealing with a spouse, co-worker , family member and our children.
Keep in mind the saying , ” It’s not always about what we say, but it’s more about how you say it.”
The way you say something can easily decide how someone will respond to what you just said.
Make sure your message is getting across , by talking in a clear voice when communicating with your children or anyone for that matter. Also, be observant on how someone maybe perceiving your message.
You may think your child understood what you are asking of them, yet they may not totally understand, which in turn may cause them to shut down or not do what is exactly asked of them. Make sure to talk to a child on their level.
Your tone matters! Your tone of voice will set the mood for whatever you are trying to get across. Many people have trouble understanding this. Your Tone of voice when you are trying to communicate can easily evoke trust or intimidation by the way your voice sounds.
So a simple thing as , “Can you help me ?”,depending on your tone , could sound like a command, or angry frustration. If said in a calm tone, it could sound like a friendly way of asking for help.
When dealing with children it is best to talk in a calm clear way. Be firm but kind. You can also help teach your children to hear the different tones in peoples voices so they can understand how someone maybe feeling.
Research tells us that our emotions are more powerful then words. Your body language, like the tone in your voice can be a good indication how someone is feeling, and how you can make someone feel.
Keep these few things in mind when you are communicating with your children to help foster a good response.